I Stand At The Door

Episode 6: From A Spouse's Perspective - What To Do When Someone You Love Struggles With Porn

November 29, 2020 Hayden Paul Season 1 Episode 6
I Stand At The Door
Episode 6: From A Spouse's Perspective - What To Do When Someone You Love Struggles With Porn
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I Stand At The Door
Episode 6: From A Spouse's Perspective - What To Do When Someone You Love Struggles With Porn
Nov 29, 2020 Season 1 Episode 6
Hayden Paul

*If you have a question or topic you'd like us to address in our podcast, send an email to hayden@istandatthedoor.com and we will cover it!*

In this episode, Savannah takes the reins and talks about her perspective on pornography issues. Hayden told Savannah early on in their relationship that porn had been something he struggled with in the past. During their engagement, Hayden had a relapse and told her about it that night.

Savannah shares her side of the story, including how she immediately said a prayer to receive comfort and guidance from God. We discuss the importance of personal revelation when it comes to pornography because each person and couple has a unique experience and needs specific direction. 

While pornography affects both men and women, we talk specifically about the mindset many women have upon finding out their boyfriend or husband looked at pornography: feeling like it is somehow their fault. Often, women feel that they aren't attractive or sexy enough and believe that is the reason their significant other had a relapse. This simply isn't true. We also discuss the difference between porn and healthy sexual intimacy in a marriage.

Please remember that if you struggle with pornography, you do not have to wait until you are "perfect" or clean to allow yourself to have a romantic relationship. Love is not something that you only deserve after you've gone a certain amount of time without a setback. Remember, relationships take communication, trust, honesty, and patience, and imperfect people work together all the time to strengthen their love for one another.

Show Notes

*If you have a question or topic you'd like us to address in our podcast, send an email to hayden@istandatthedoor.com and we will cover it!*

In this episode, Savannah takes the reins and talks about her perspective on pornography issues. Hayden told Savannah early on in their relationship that porn had been something he struggled with in the past. During their engagement, Hayden had a relapse and told her about it that night.

Savannah shares her side of the story, including how she immediately said a prayer to receive comfort and guidance from God. We discuss the importance of personal revelation when it comes to pornography because each person and couple has a unique experience and needs specific direction. 

While pornography affects both men and women, we talk specifically about the mindset many women have upon finding out their boyfriend or husband looked at pornography: feeling like it is somehow their fault. Often, women feel that they aren't attractive or sexy enough and believe that is the reason their significant other had a relapse. This simply isn't true. We also discuss the difference between porn and healthy sexual intimacy in a marriage.

Please remember that if you struggle with pornography, you do not have to wait until you are "perfect" or clean to allow yourself to have a romantic relationship. Love is not something that you only deserve after you've gone a certain amount of time without a setback. Remember, relationships take communication, trust, honesty, and patience, and imperfect people work together all the time to strengthen their love for one another.